06 Sep '11 19:48>
Originally posted by twhiteheadI also advocate corrective rehabilitation, however I do believe that there should also be a punishment component in any social consequence. Otherwise the deterrent effect is lost.
A parent often does not hold a grudge against a child. The punishment is usually corrective rather than revenge. But I am not sure how this works beyond childhood.
I have actually been a strong supporter of not using punishment even for criminals but rather corrective action - which includes things like education and skills training rather than hard l ...[text shortened]... d forgiveness is the best solution. And in some cases, it is best to forgiveness and part ways.
I don't agree that it is a fact that love and hate go together. This is not my experience at all.