Originally posted by lucifershammer
I've quoted Pope Paul VI on the difference in my response to no1 above.
My observation was: I fail to see the difference between NFP and ABC.
From Pope Paul VI:
In other words, the Church permits NFP because the couple is not committing the sinful act of separating the procreative aspect of sex from its other aspects. They are showing due respect to their marriage, the gift of the conjugal act (sex) and each other.
If a couple is having sex during the non-ovulating period, then they are trying to separate
themselves from the procreative aspect! That's the point of looking for the mucus; if you
see it, you know she's fertile -- stay away! Using NFP as contraception is contraception.
In my question above ('If I and my wife, having had a child but still being fertile, choose
only to have conjugal relations during her infertile period...'😉, I make it clear that we are
not interested in having a child -- we are using NFP as a means of preventing pregnancy.
It is contraception; it is an effort to separate procreation from conjugals by definition.
This is why I fail to see the difference, and I similarly fail to see how Pope Paul VI's comment
is relevant (because one is trying to separate conjugals from procreation, just like wearing a
condom is trying to separate them). And, given that the rate of incidental pregnancy is
comparable, I see them as comparable means of contraception.
Misogyny is an excessive pathological hatred towards women. I recognise none of that here. Women who practise NFP cite several advantages - increased self-awareness and knowledge of their fertility, increased independence from costly or distant medical services, freedom from artificial substances and the side effects or potential medical risks of other methods, reduced re-supply costs associated with commodity-based methods, enhanced communication and intimacy (and this appears to be more important to many women than physical pleasure) etc. (http://www.irh.org/nfp.html)
I feel that it is hateful to tell a woman that her libido isn't important in a healthy sexual relationship.
Several of these things are irrelevant; a woman can have increased self-awareness/knowledge
about her cycle or have enchanced communication and intimacy with any contraceptive structure
in place. Also, even if one uses contraception regularly, NFP can be used to help when a couple
wants to become pregnant. So, these claims, I feel, have no merit because they are
not a product of using NFP exclusively (they can occur in those who use ABC exclusively or both
methods) and we also do not know that women who use NFP exclusively feel these things in
a statistically higher % than those who do not.
The other claims seem redundant: 'increased independence from costly or distant medical services,
freedom from artificial substances and the side effects or potential medical risks of other methods,
reduced re-supply costs associated with commodity-based methods.'
All this says is freedom from the inconvenience of 'artificial' devices (whether it is time, memory,
money, or medical side effects). This is only valuable if there is a strain on a persons time,
mind, pocket, or person. If not, then a person would not feel more or less independent for they
do not find that they are losing by doing so.
Furthermore, there is a type of contraception which would alleviate all of these problems:
testicular heating. No barriers, no medicines, no expense. You soak your testicles in hot water for
10 minutes a day and in a few days you are sperm free. In a few weeks of not doing it, you will
be totally fertile again.
This would allow for a barrier-less and medication-less sexual life, one which can be responsive to
the respective libidos of both partners. Nothing could be more natural than this.
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