@pb1022 saidIf it was indeed your "whole point" then it is odd that you excluded it from your attempt to make the aforementioned point a couple of pages back. The "whole point" was whether or not a spouse "would go along with it", was it? What a strange attempt at damage limitation.
You’re assuming the other person would go along with it. That’s my whole point.
@fmf saidI thought it was a given that the other person would have to go along with a reconciliation in order for the reconciliation to happen.
If it was indeed your "whole point" then it is odd that you excluded it from your attempt to make the aforementioned point a couple of pages back. The "whole point" was whether or not a spouse "would go along with it", was it? What a strange attempt at damage limitation.
How strange that you needed that expressly stated.
@pb1022 said
You can’t repair a badly-damaged relationship in one day and then celebrate the next day.
On page 16 @pb1022 said
Asking God to help you repair your marriage when you know you could drop dead of a heart attack an hour later seems kind of pointless.
@pb1022 said
You can’t repair a badly-damaged relationship in one day and then celebrate the next day.
But it wouldn't be "pointless" if you believed in eternal life, is that really what you want people to believe was your "whole point"?
@pb1022 saidHow strange that you needed that expressly stated.
Asking God to help you repair your marriage when you know you could drop dead of a heart attack an hour later seems kind of pointless.
Knowing I "could drop dead of a heart attack" shortly thereafter would NOT have any effect on my attempts to repair my marriage if they were needed.
Indeed, the possibility that I could drop dead of a heart attack today or tomorrow - a REAL possibility, as it is for everyone alive - does not make ANY aspect of my marriage "pointless", whether it be life-as-usual, maintenance or repair.
If you think it WOULD make it "pointless", then that is a revelation about your own mentality, nothing more and nothing less.
@fmf saidAbsolutely.On page 16 @pb1022 said
Asking God to help you repair your marriage when you know you could drop dead of a heart attack an hour later seems kind of pointless.
@pb1022 said
You can’t repair a badly-damaged relationship in one day and then celebrate the next day.
But it wouldn't be "pointless" if you believed in eternal life, is that really what you want people to believe was your "whole point"?
Because, for the believer, God is in control of when that person dies and should that person drop dead of a heart attack an hour after attempting a reconciliation, it was obviously God’s will that that happened.
And if the believer’s wife also is a believer, they will be reunited in Heaven.
Knowing God is in control and knowing the holiness and perfection of God is another explanation (in addition to the hope of eternal life) for the peace that passes all understanding.
@fmf saidThat post of mine you quoted was in response to your absurd proposition that if you had a badly-damaged relationship, knew you would die in two days and could not tell the other person you’d die in two days that you’d spend your final two days on earth reconciling and celebrating your relationship.
Epic wriggling.
Reconciliation ~ or efforts to reconcile - would not be "pointless" and would no be affected by "the promise of eternal life".
@fmf saidPointless from the standpoint of expecting success.
How strange that you needed that expressly stated.
Knowing I "could drop dead of a heart attack" shortly thereafter would NOT have any effect on my attempts to repair my marriage if they were needed.
Indeed, the possibility that I could drop dead of a heart attack today or tomorrow - a REAL possibility, as it is for everyone alive - does not make ANY aspect of my ma ...[text shortened]... e it "pointless", then that is a revelation about your own mentality, nothing more and nothing less.
If you think you can repair a badly-damaged relationship in one day and spend the next day celebrating the reconciliation and relationship, I suggest you’re being a tad too optimistic and unrealistic.
@pb1022 saidThere was nothing "absurd" about what I said. I absolutely would try to reconcile and celebrate during that remaining time, even if it were only two days.
That post of mine you quoted was in response to your absurd proposition that if you had a badly-damaged relationship, knew you would die in two days and could not tell the other person you’d die in two days that you’d spend your final two days on earth reconciling and celebrating your relationship.
@pb1022 saidAnd what's the matter with being optimistic or even unrealistic during the last few days of a marriage? For you to insist that it would be "pointless" says more about you than it says about the people onto whom you are trying to project your jaundiced view.
If you think you can repair a badly-damaged relationship in one day and spend the next day celebrating the reconciliation and relationship, I suggest you’re being a tad too optimistic and unrealistic.