Originally posted by wucky3That sounds like a terribly hard thing to go through for you and your family, still you seem to have turned out pretty well despite it all. Its funny how some of the worst challenges make people stronger.
not really it really screwed everyone up at the time...and i think it was about 7-8 years before i saw her again. Her husband is very close to my age...it's all very odd
At that young an age(14-18) though, I still feel that you have so much of your life ahead of you its best to take your time. Live life, love life and try to find a path that works for you.
Respectfully,
HH
Originally posted by Hand of Hecatei totally agree..you should be out having fun with your mates at that age..14 is ever so young to even think about having a relationship
That sounds like a terribly hard thing to go through for you and your family, still you seem to have turned out pretty well despite it all. Its funny how some of the worst challenges make people stronger.
At that young an age(14-18) though, I still feel that you have so much of your life ahead of you its best to take your time. Live life, love life and try to find a path that works for you.
Respectfully,
HH
Originally posted by wucky3Gives me the shivers. I just don't think I'd have been able to handle something like that when I was a boy. Seems like it would be very difficult to share a life with someone a generation or more different in age. The intense memories of your first 15-20 years would be very difficult to share.
not really it really screwed everyone up at the time...and i think it was about 7-8 years before i saw her again. Her husband is very close to my age...it's all very odd
Originally posted by wucky3Truly startling!
i suppose this is an extreme example but i'll go ahead anyway;
my mother met a 15 year old boy when she was 32...you can imagine the problems this caused with her job..his school ( she was a member of staff at the the school he attended) and of course my dad wasn't very happy about it either (understatement of the year)..as a result my sister and i were ra ...[text shortened]... e thought it wouldn't last it did which proves relationships with large age gaps can work out
You read a lot of cr*p in the forums but your post really made me think, what an emotional cocktail for your family.
Anger, Jealousy, Forgiveness, Rejection a pretty poisoness cocktail.
I'm sure you must depise 15 year olds even more than the rest of us!!
Originally posted by Delmeryeah it kind of makes me want to throw up....seeing your mother snogging with a teenager.. well..it's not a pleasant sight.
Gives me the shivers. I just don't think I'd have been able to handle something like that when I was a boy. Seems like it would be very difficult to share a life with someone a generation or more different in age. The intense memories of your first 15-20 years would be very difficult to share.
Originally posted by mc2005If you ask for an opinion you'll get one. It might not be the one you want. If you just want people to validate your choices you are not going about it the right way.
yet another unnecessary post. But I guess not everyone on this site can be mature and understanding like the majority of people who have posted in this thread have been can they?
Originally posted by XanthosNZan opinion would be "well she's 14 i don't think you should go out with her" + a reason why. Not a cocky half wit comment which is all he managed.
If you ask for an opinion you'll get one. It might not be the one you want. If you just want people to validate your choices you are not going about it the right way.
Originally posted by mc2005Did I not mention that you'd get people being funny? It happens here. Live with it or stop posting.
an opinion would be "well she's 14 i don't think you should go out with her" + a reason why. Not a cocky half wit comment which is all he managed.
But Phalb's suggestion is a good one, say her parents don't know. Then they find out. Would you really like to be in a position where you have to prove you haven't had sex or get arrested.
Originally posted by XanthosNZXanthosNZ otherwise known as "The All Knowing, All Seeing Uber Llama(Al for short)" has a good point. Involving the parents even in some peripheral fashion is a good plan. Go over to her house with a couple of friends, a movie and have a barbeque for example (learn how to cook some baby back ribs this will come in handy for the drunken parties the future holds for you). Let them get to know you in a casual environment and they'll trust you with their little Angel. Sneaking around or the perception of sneaking around will earn you the wrath of the dreaded under age dating Gods.
Did I not mention that you'd get people being funny? It happens here. Live with it or stop posting.
But Phalb's suggestion is a good one, say her parents don't know. Then they find out. Would you really like to be in a position where you have to prove you haven't had sex or get arrested.
By the way, I think your jockey shorts are too tight as they are obviously cutting off the circulation to your sense of humor.
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Originally posted by mc2005Most all my posts are quick and to the point.... not sure how you confused that with 'maturity'.
yet another unnecessary post. But I guess not everyone on this site can be mature and understanding like the majority of people who have posted in this thread have been can they?
I didn't realize you had already made up your mind. Next time you start a thread, let me know. I'll close it for you so no one else can speak their mind.
No, I'm not kidding.
I've counted 5 users agree, 6 don't... count for yourself and let me know what you come up with. Thanx.
ES
Edit! Here is a quote from one of the users that agrees with you:
'I can always make her have a abortion.'
Nice.
