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If one of your best friends told you they didn't want to talk to you anymore because you were a few years younger, how would you react? 😕

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I would ask them why your age would have anything to do with them nto wanting to be friends with you and if they don't give you a decent reason, tell them to stuff themselves.

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Originally posted by expressiveoutburst
I would ask them why your age would have anything to do with them nto wanting to be friends with you and if they don't give you a decent reason, tell them to stuff themselves.
Because they felt guilty talking to someone younger and of the opposite sex. Even just as friends.

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Originally posted by Remora91
Because they felt guilty talking to someone younger and of the opposite sex. Even just as friends.
Fear of being branded a paedophile, eh?

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How much older are they than you? If you don't want to put your age up that's ok.

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Originally posted by expressiveoutburst
How much older are they than you? If you don't want to put your age up that's ok.
I'm almost 15, they just turned 18. Is that paedophilia?

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Originally posted by Remora91
If one of your best friends told you they didn't want to talk to you anymore because you were a few years younger, how would you react? 😕
Well if one of my friends asked me to, I guess I might feel offened but I would.

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Originally posted by Remora91
I'm almost 15, they just turned 18. Is that paedophilia?
No. But it may be that your friend is having feelings for you which are confusing him. 18 is still very much a hormonal age. There is obviously a reason why he doesn't want to be one of your best friends any more. I say try to discuss it with him to find out the reasons, but don't try to change his mind.

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Originally posted by Remora91
If one of your best friends told you they didn't want to talk to you anymore because you were a few years younger, how would you react? 😕
I'd say good riddance.

Then flirt with and maybe try to seduce either the guys she knows or his friends. Or, if that makes you uncomfortable or doesn't work (you are kinda young, maybe not a good idea), just be charming and fun with that person's friends.

Then refuse to be that one person's friend but be friends with their friends.

If the whole crowd's ignoring you, find those friends who are actually friends and live your life. Be popular and happy and remember how that person disrespected you.

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Originally posted by Remora91
I'm almost 15, they just turned 18. Is that paedophilia?
It is if they do anything with you that is sexual, butjust talking isn't. Seems like they are just being petty.

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Originally posted by Remora91
I'm almost 15, they just turned 18. Is that paedophilia?
almost means 14!

but its only paedophilia if there is anything sexual involved.

personally (as a father of a 14yo) i wouldnt be too keen on my daughter having a "friendship" with an 18yo, so i can understand thier point of view (presuming you are female and the 18yo is male).

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Originally posted by AThousandYoung
be friends/lovers with their friends.
you should not be encouraging 14yo's to have "lovers" dude!

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Originally posted by MCA
you should not be encouraging 14yo's to have "lovers" dude!
I realized that afterwards. Notice the edits.

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Originally posted by AThousandYoung
I realized that afterwards. Notice the edits.
ok cool, i posted before you got your edit in

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Originally posted by Remora91
If one of your best friends told you they didn't want to talk to you anymore because you were a few years younger, how would you react? 😕
This can be a temporary situation, but if the laws are similar in Scotland to the US then your friend is now an adult and you are still a child, even if he doesn't feel like an adult and you don't feel like a child. Whether you give consent or not, he can be arrested for sexual contact with you. Unless he's still in secondary school, his world is about to be full of adult decisions while it's more than likely you still live with parents who provide your food, clothing, shelter, electricity, etc. When you are an adult you will be equals again, and your friendship may or may not resume. But it is normal and healthy for him to prefer the company of other young adults at the moment. If he's a young adult and his best friend is 14, that is a sign he's not a healthy person who's developing normally, as frustrating for you as that is. Turn it around. Is your other best friend nearly eleven years old? Same thing. Sorry. It will pass, though!