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Someone victimizing you and you don't know why? The forums are boring you? The mods are out to get you? Tell me all your RHP woes and I will use my expertise and wisdom to answer your concerns to the best of my ability.

I am here to help, because I care!

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Originally posted by Raven69
Someone victimizing you and you don't know why? The forums are boring you? The mods are out to get you? Tell me all your RHP woes and I will use my expertise and wisdom to answer your concerns to the best of my ability.

I am here to help, because I care!
I don't have any problems myself, b-b-b-but I have this friend....who keeps having these strange dreams.

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Originally posted by Red Night
I don't have any problems myself, b-b-b-but I have this friend....who keeps having these strange dreams.
Dear Dreamer,

Is it RHP related dreams? If so, my advise is to tell "your friend" they need to spend less time glued to their dusty monitor and more out in the real world. To go out and feel natural light on their skin again for the first time in what must be weeks.

Much love,
Raven

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Originally posted by Raven69
Dear Dreamer,

Is it RHP related dreams? If so, my advise is to tell "your friend" they need to spend less time glued to their dusty monitor and more out in the real world. To go out and feel natural light on their skin again for the first time in what must be weeks.

Much love,
Raven
Thanks Raven, I'll be sure to tell her.

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Hi Raven. New caller - long time listener. I have a friend who has this problem. She's desperately infatuated with an RHP member who will not return her advances. Complicating any relationship is the fact that this member is also a moderator with a very high profile.

Should she continue to press the issue or abandon any hope of happiness.

Yours truly

"Sad heart"

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Originally posted by skeeter
Hi Raven. New caller - long time listener. I have a friend who has this problem. She's desperately infatuated with an RHP member who will not return her advances. Complicating any relationship is the fact that this member is also a moderator with a very high profile.

Should she continue to press the issue or abandon any hope of happiness.

Yours truly

"Sad heart"
Dear Infatuated,

Were these advances obvious, or more of a subtle variety? If they were subtle maybe she should try being a little clearer about her feelings. If the mod still does not reciprocate then my advise to her would be to realize that he is just not that into her and move on. There are plenty of other fish in the sea, or mods on RHP...it also could be that she is simply attracted to power and a high profile more then the person himself. It may be prudent for her to do some self-reflecting.

She could also try, and this might seem a little crazy, but she could try to find a person in real life to be infatuated with...?

Much love,
Raven

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Thank you Raven. Good advice indeed and I'll be sure to pass it on to my friend. She does have some trouble seperating the percieved from the reality.

I'm sure she'll benefit from your counsel.

Kind regards

skeeter

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Dear Raven,

My head hurts. Should I cut it off or go to a doctor?

Ta.

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Dear Rav,
I have a friend...ok it's me...who would like to become a subsciber(again) but am afraid that I'd spend too much time playing here rather than "living" in the real world. Is there some medication or meditation that might curb my fears? I'd like to thank you in advance for any help you might be able to provide ( I won't get a bill will I? If I do please just disreguard this request for help)
Yours,

GBS

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Originally posted by Natsia
Dear Raven,

My head hurts. Should I cut it off or go to a doctor?

Ta.
Dear Potentially Headless,

Definitely go with the later. However, if you do decide on the former put some newspapers on the floor or something. Self-decapitation is a messy thing and no one wants to spend their afternoon cleaning your blood out of the carpet.

Much love,
Raven

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Originally posted by Great Big Stees
Dear Rav,
I have a friend...ok it's me...who would like to become a subsciber(again) but am afraid that I'd spend too much time playing here rather than "living" in the real world. Is there some medication or meditation that might curb my fears? I'd like to thank you in advance for any help you might be able to provide ( I won't get a bill will I? If I do please just disreguard this request for help)
Yours,

GBS
Dear Non-Sub Scum,

One can spend too much time here even without a sub. The problem is not the subscription itself but time management. If you want a sub, get one. But allot specific times (2-3 hours, or however many you think is appropriate) during the day to RHP and avoid it like the plague during the rest of the time.

Much love,
Raven

P.S. All my services are free of charge.

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Dear Raven,

I have a new friend who has quite a severe anger management problem. I think she just wants to be accepted and loved like most other people, but she seems very emotionally scarred and can only express herself using the language of hatred. Is there any hope for this poor soul or is she a 'lost cause'? Please don't suggest that I reach out to her, as I feel that only a professional can help her.

yours
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Very Rusty
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Originally posted by Great Big Stees

I have a friend...ok it's me...who would like to become a subsciber(again) but am afraid that I'd spend too much time playing here rather than "living" in the real world. Is there some medication or meditation that might curb my fears? I'd like to thank you in advance for any help you might be able to provide ( I won't get a bill will I? If I do please just disreguard this request for help)
Yours,

GBS
Only difference it would make with you, is you would paying instead of not. Maybe play a few more games, and of course you could alert again! 😛

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Originally posted by Blackamp


I have a new friend who has quite a severe anger management problem. I think she just wants to be accepted and loved like most other people, but she seems very emotionally scarred and can only express herself using the language of hatred. Is there any hope for this poor soul or is she a 'lost cause'? Please don't suggest that I reach out to her, as I feel that only a professional can help her.

yours
Concerned
Tell her to cut out her friendship with you, and everything should be just fine. 😛

Probably not the answer you were looking for huh?

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Originally posted by Very Rusty
Tell her to cut out her friendship with you, and everything should be just fine. 😛

Probably not the answer you were looking for huh?
Dear Raven,

I also know somebody who suffers from acute digital diarrhoea. Perhaps you could help him also.

Yours
Concerned (again)

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