Originally posted by PBE6I'm more of a badger. And the badgering shall commence within a couple of hours. I plan on: 'Will you go out with me? No? How about now? No? Come on? No? What about now?' until she cracks. I'm off for a swim. Will come and complain here, if I fail miserably.
I recommend getting *her* number instead of giving yours out...
But, about getting her no., it's difficult. Seriously. She's working there, everyone's looking and all that- I don't think that would work. It is usually better, I agree. But it's a toughie, this situation.
Actually, she's just moved here, and I don't know if she even has a cell phone that works. At least I will have that to console me if she doesn't give me her number. I'll say: well, maybe she hasn't got one. 😕
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Originally posted by Michelle PlassanOk- flower has its merits. Might just do that, then. Which, a rose? A white rose would be spectacular.
I would love a guy to rock up with a flower in hand with his numberon it.. beats bad pick up lines in a drunken pub any day...
Do people ever get out of the friend zone???
I don't know, though- you don't think she'd hate me for embarrassing her?
But your last problem is a pickle of a predicament.
I've seen it happen to friends- although, I'm fortunate enough to have avoided that one so far. That can be our next amourous problem, if you wish to share, and we'll all try and give you helpful advice. Personally, though, at a first glance those problems usually seem better dropped, so don't be too optimistic. Be we can give it a go.
Originally posted by sjegIf she just moved there, chat her up about the city, then offer to take her to that romantic spot on the waterfront you've been talking about. Of course, you'll need her number to co-ordinate. 🙂
I'm more of a badger. And the badgering shall commence within a couple of hours. I plan on: 'Will you go out with me? No? How about now? No? Come on? No? What about now?' until she cracks. I'm off for a swim. Will come and complain here, if I fail miserably.
But, about getting her no., it's difficult. Seriously. She's working there, everyone's looking and al ...[text shortened]... me if she doesn't give me her number. I'll say: well, maybe she hasn't got one. 😕
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Originally posted by Michelle PlassanDamn, if you make a small slip up at the start, perhaps getting the end of that first date or two to finish in the wrong location, it's so easy to head into that "friend zone".
I would love a guy to rock up with a flower in hand with his numberon it.. beats bad pick up lines in a drunken pub any day...
I totally understand your problem have a similar one with a guy but i think we are now in the friend zone of knowing each other and going out for drinks over the past 3 years and nothing happening... friend zone or his gay not quite sure yet hahahahaha...
Do people ever get out of the friend zone???
The way out of it is to just demand clarification 🙂 I've got to do that myself this week but at least it's only been a couple of weeks since date one.
I feel for you though if you've been in that zone for three years. Not only could that be quite awkward but if you find he feels the same way you're gonna kick yourself!
Originally posted by sjegwhite rose or any bright flower just avoid the typical red rose thing....
Ok- flower has its merits. Might just do that, then. Which, a rose? A white rose would be spectacular.
I don't know, though- you don't think she'd hate me for embarrassing her?
But your last problem is a pickle of a predicament.
I've seen it happen to friends- although, I'm fortunate enough to have avoided that one so far. That can be our next amourou ...[text shortened]... problems usually seem better dropped, so don't be too optimistic. Be we can give it a go.
Originally posted by Wheelyits a horrible predicament im in because im going on a major trip around the world next year so if i do something now it might not be good when i go.. probably better to wait it out a bit longer, but god i feel like im living that movie when harry met sally hahaha
Damn, if you make a small slip up at the start, perhaps getting the end of that first date or two to finish in the wrong location, it's so easy to head into that "friend zone".
The way out of it is to just demand clarification 🙂 I've got to do that myself this week but at least it's only been a couple of weeks since date one.
I feel for you though if ...[text shortened]... d that be quite awkward but if you find he feels the same way you're gonna kick yourself!
Originally posted by huckleberryhoundkickboxing and 'self help.' 😲
I've been told i'm special, but i'm not sure it was a compliment at the time 😕
Feck it, i'd rather have a good beer that a bad ride any day of the week, i can wait for someone nice to come along. . . that's what kickboxing was invented for 🙂
Originally posted by Michelle PlassanHey, if he really sees it as a real friendship then he isn't going to stop being friends, after three years, if you mention that you might like to take it a little further. If he's gay, he certainly won't mind you mentioning it and if he's keen too then you're in!!!!
its a horrible predicament im in because im going on a major trip around the world next year so if i do something now it might not be good when i go.. probably better to wait it out a bit longer, but god i feel like im living that movie when harry met sally hahaha
You've got nothing to lose if you ask me.
Originally posted by WheelyI dont cope well with rejection so i usually stay clear away from it these days... I'll just have to drop just enough hints and hope that his manly enough to take control and sweep me off my feet...
Hey, if he really sees it as a real friendship then he isn't going to stop being friends, after three years, if you mention that you might like to take it a little further. If he's gay, he certainly won't mind you mentioning it and if he's keen too then you're in!!!!
You've got nothing to lose if you ask me.
I love good old fashion romance and i dont think it seems to exists anymore these days!
Any opinions on that!!!!
Originally posted by Michelle PlassanYou're failing to understand one simple basic fact about the vast majority of men. They are even more concerned about rejection than you are AND they have absolutely no concept of "taking the hint". What you see as a monstrously obvious hint that you are interested could easily be taken as definitive confirmation that you are actually not interested, a passing reference to something extremely female and baffling or a bad case of indigestion.
I dont cope well with rejection so i usually stay clear away from it these days... I'll just have to drop just enough hints and hope that his manly enough to take control and sweep me off my feet...
I love good old fashion romance and i dont think it seems to exists anymore these days!
Any opinions on that!!!!
Anyway, do you want to spend another three years dropping hints when his reaction sometimes confirms he is interested and sometimes confirms he isn't? Tie yourself up in knots or just ask him. At least if he says he isn't interested or can't be then you can choose to carry on being friends or feel pissed off and depressed for a while and then move on.
Originally posted by WheelyI will give that great consideration and see what my gut says tomorrow.. thanks for the advice....
You're failing to understand one simple basic fact about the vast majority of men. They are even more concerned about rejection than you are AND they have absolutely no concept of "taking the hint". What you see as a monstrously obvious hint that you are interested could easily be taken as definitive confirmation that you are actually not interested, a pass ...[text shortened]... e to carry on being friends or feel pissed off and depressed for a while and then move on.
Well, thanks for the advice, folks.
Here's how it went. I wandered up with a red rose (yes, I read Michelle's post just now- it's an oldie- but it's traditional!) and a suggestion of coming out for a drink with me sometime on a card. Wandered around for ages, bought some stuff, looked around more... and finally concluded she wasn't there. She must have knocked off earlier.
Well, what I should have mentioned in my original post is that I'm am really, REALLY unlucky in these things. Sometimes, you really feel like someone up there is just taking the piss.
Anyhow, I'll try again tomorrow. I like that lilly idea, though.
And Wheely's right, Michelle. But make it a traditional move. Don't over-reach, if you see what I mean. But DO make a move, so then you'll know.
Ok- I'm off to get drunk and cry myself to sleep.
Well, maybe I'll just have some wine and cheese. Good luck, anyway! Let us know how it went. Will do the same. Cheers folks.
