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Originally posted by wolfgang59Fornication is sex outside of marriage, so a subset or outcome of promiscuity.
Promiscuity isn't fornication though.
Isn't "fornication" unlawful and/or unnatural sex? (I concede I may be wrong)
Originally posted by vivifyIn the final analysis, what matters is how you would direct your kids, daughter. Would you tell your teenage daughter that promiscuity is a sound way of life? Probably not, I've never met someone who would, have you? On the other hand I've never met anyone who told their kids that being married (or in a long-term committed monogamous relationship) is a bad thing. So there you have it.
Everything includes risk; marriage, for example. No one can be sure that their marriage won't be a wreck and that they won't regret it. All we can do is make sure we thoughtfully and responsibly choose a partner for marriage; the same goes for being promiscuous.
Promiscuity doesn't have to be indiscriminate.
Originally posted by KazetNagorraActually nor do I, but as a Christian I find it to be a sin. Twhitehead hit the head of nail earlier asking if sin equated to immorality. I think (not sure) that sin is a biblical concept and morality a humanist viewpoint. I suppose there are bound to be overlaps.
I think for something to be immoral there has to be a victim of the behaviour in question. In the case of promiscuity, this is not, in general, the case, so I do not find promiscuity, in and of itself, immoral.
Originally posted by divegeesterI disagree with the premise for your final analysis. 🙂
In the final analysis, what matters is how you would direct your kids, daughter. Would you tell your teenage daughter that promiscuity is a sound way of life? Probably not, I've never met someone who would, have you? On the other hand I've never met anyone who told their kids that being married (or in a long-term committed monogamous relationship) is a b ...[text shortened]... view. Wether or not promiscuity is a bad idea but still moral is a personal perspective I guess.
Originally posted by KazetNagorraMy favourite definition of morality is actions that have to do with harm or benefit to others. One can of course find a victim if one looks hard enough even for actions that I would not strictly categorise as morality. So for example if a woman shows her knees in public, that is often termed 'immoral' in good society, but the victim there is the society and its norms and not an individual. Similarly all sin could be seen as harming God (if such a thing is possible) and thus immoral in that sense, but I think that is stretching it. Far better to separate sin as in an action that God disapproves of from morals as in actions that bring harm to others or fail to bring aid to others and finally there is morals as in societies norms specifically surrounding sexual behaviour - and often targeted at women. So a woman who is promiscuous is described as having 'loose morals' whereas a man would typically not be so described. But nobody would confuse that description with causing harm to someone or failing to bring aid.
I think for something to be immoral there has to be a victim of the behaviour in question. In the case of promiscuity, this is not, in general, the case, so I do not find promiscuity, in and of itself, immoral.
Originally posted by divegeesterDecide why promiscuity is never advised by parents to their children and long-term stable relationships are, and you have your answer to the OP, at least from a humanist point of view.
In the final analysis, what matters is how you would direct your kids, daughter. Would you tell your teenage daughter that promiscuity is a sound way of life? Probably not, I've never met someone who would, have you? On the other hand I've never met anyone who told their kids that being married (or in a long-term committed monogamous relationship) is a b ...[text shortened]... view. Wether or not promiscuity is a bad idea but still moral is a personal perspective I guess.
Originally posted by vivifyIt doesn't mean it false either. In fact if we look at the evidence presented in this thread there is much pointing toward promiscuity being an unsound way to live; contrary to the premise in the OP. The only positive so far, and I may have missed something, is GoaD's "getting (something) out of his system" before he got into a monogamous marriage. Besides, culture is a powerful force, simply stating that the only reason for promiscuity to be perceived as negative is due to culture, is a bit like saying the only reason waving your erection around in public is negative is because of culture. It's still not "a sound way to live".
[b]Decide why promiscuity is never advised by parents to their children and long-term stable relationships are, and you have your answer to the OP, at least from a humanist point of view.
It's because of culture. Religious views have permeated our culture, and the idea that promiscuity (especially for girls) is bad, is due to religious influence.
I ...[text shortened]... ined the idea that it's immoral for girls to do so. However, it doesn't mean this idea is true.[/b]
Originally posted by divegeesterThe only positive?
It doesn't mean it false either. In fact if we look at the evidence presented in this thread there is much pointing toward promiscuity being an unsound way to live; contrary to the premise in the OP. The only positive so far, and I may have missed something, is GoaD's "getting (something) out of his system" before he got into a monogamous marriage. Besid ...[text shortened]... ection around in public is negative is because of culture. It's still not "a sound way to live".
Originally posted by wolfgang59Then it was indeed right for you. But sticking with you, if you will not promote that lifestyle to your daughter once she becomes of age, then you are not living your own premise that "promiscuity is a sound way to live"; what you are promoting is merely your own experience and there is no evidence, or cannot be any evidence for you personally, that you would not have developed into the rounded individual you are today had you not had a period of promiscuity in your life.
The only positive?
When I was promiscuous I got a lot out of it!
And I don't mean just the sex. My self-esteem and confidence grew. I was happy.
It was the right life-style for me at the time.
If it had been illegal or completely taboo I would have missed out.
Originally posted by vivifyIts a longer story than that. There are good reasons for culturally discouraging promiscuity in girls prior to the advent of birth control methods. The culture permeates religion, which in turn had kept it in the culture. Religion tend to set in stone cultural norms that may no longer be useful, such as avoidance of pork.
It's because of culture. Religious views have permeated our culture, and the idea that promiscuity (especially for girls) is bad, is due to religious influence.
Originally posted by divegeesterAs I have said I would not promote promiscuity.
Then it was indeed right for you. But sticking with you, if you will not promote that lifestyle to your daughter once she becomes of age, then you are not living your own premise that "promiscuity is a sound way to live"; what you are promoting is merely your own experience and there is no evidence, or cannot be any evidence for you personally, that you ...[text shortened]... into the rounded individual you are today had you not had a period of promiscuity in your life.
Originally posted by wolfgang59Indeed it should. I accept people who have differing sexual appetites but that does not mean I concur with them that those appetites are sound and beneficial. For example, if I had children (I don't) I would encourage them to not be promiscuous and explain why, but I certainly wouldn't condemn or reject them if they were.
Surely an open society can accept people with different and differing sexual appetites?
Originally posted by twhiteheadReligion comes from culture.
Its a longer story than that. There are good reasons for culturally discouraging promiscuity in girls prior to the advent of birth control methods. The culture permeates religion, which in turn had kept it in the culture. Religion tend to set in stone cultural norms that may no longer be useful, such as avoidance of pork.
Even with good birth control met ...[text shortened]... acilities, then it remains the case that there are good reasons for girls to not be promiscuous.