Originally posted by eagles54
Then why would God eternally punish such a gentle soul?
Your question can't be answered sufficiently with a few short phrases.
To be sure, the world is full of examples where non-believers exhibit much more integrity than do believers. In fact, there is a general lack of integrity among most professing believers, exacerbated by the underlying assumption that they should be leading the crowd, in this area, at least.
Integrity is its own reward, however, and has many wonderful benefits in this life, as well as in the next. Those believers without integrity in this life are miserable, and miss out on the rewards available to them in the next. Not that that is any comfort for someone going to hell, of course.
The spiritual issue in this life begins with acceptance or rejection of the Lord Jesus Christ, and is the great divide. Possessing or lacking God's righteousness, for any person, 'good or bad,' determines their final destination. Like all of us, your friend, he alone determines his destiny.