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@bigdoggproblem said
I'm sure the teachers thought of it as leading people to God's truth.
Was there an age at which you remember acknowledging, to yourself, that you did not believe "God's truth"? And an age [later?] at which you were willing to come out and say it to people?

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It's fine. There were the usual debates, at first, but we stopped doing that after a time.

I did learn a lot about not taking religious debate so seriously, from the times it happened with family. I came to realize that it's not worth alienating people over.


@bigdoggproblem said
It's fine. There were the usual debates, at first, but we stopped doing that after a time.

I did learn a lot about not taking religious debate so seriously, from the times it happened with family. I came to realize that it's not worth alienating people over.
Unless is is people on internet boards.

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@fmf said
Was there an age at which you remember acknowledging, to yourself, that you did not believe "God's truth"? And an age [later?] at which you were willing to come out and say it to people?
Started questioning some of "God's truth" in mid to late teens, and was openly agnostic at age 21.

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@eladar said
Unless is is people on internet boards.
Well, that is a bit safer. If some guy I only knew as a handle stops taking to me, it hardly bothers me.

That being said, I've not been debating as hardcore even here lately, because I just don't see the point anymore. I enjoy the forums more by taking them less seriously.


A Buddhist might ask, "Who loses what?"


@bigdoggproblem said
It's fine. There were the usual debates, at first, but we stopped doing that after a time.

I did learn a lot about not taking religious debate so seriously, from the times it happened with family. I came to realize that it's not worth alienating people over.
My mother was raised Christian Scientist (they don’t believe in medicine; ‘sickness is God’s way of telling you something’ ).At the age of about eight, I informed my mother that ‘God was made in man’s image’ and that I would no longer go to church. Bless her heart, she relented and let me find my own way.

My sister later joined a pentecostalist church (they’re the ones who ‘speak in tongues’ ). When she once asked me whether she would see me in heaven, I answered, ‘if your eyes are open.’ We left it at that; we don’t talk about religion, but we get on fine and can talk about anything else.

My father, Episcopalian, sang in the choir, and later joined a symphony choir in Anchorage, singing well into his 80s. He never once tried to remonstrate with me about my being a non-Christian.

For me, there was never any sense of loss (since I never had a faith to begin with), only a sense of liberation. I am grateful for having a family which could be at peace with that.

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@moonbus said
My mother was raised Christian Scientist (they don’t believe in medicine; ‘sickness is God’s way of telling you something’ ).At the age of about eight, I informed my mother that ‘God was made in man’s image’ and that I would no longer go to church. Bless her heart, she relented and let me find my own way.

My sister later joined a pentecostalist church (they’re the ones wh ...[text shortened]... h), only a sense of liberation. I am grateful for having a family which could be at peace with that.
You should have told your sister the truth, no. And left it at that.

No for you because there is no heaven. No for her beliefs because you will burn in hell. Either way the answer is no.

You chose to belittle her beliefs which did not blow up into an argument because your sister was a better person than you.

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@eladar said
You should have told your sister the truth, no. And left it at that.

No for you because there is no heaven. No for her beliefs because you will burn in hell. Either way the answer is no.
moonbus' approach to his sister's superstition was more intelligent and compassionate than yours.


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No would still have been the honest answer.

As I pointed out in my edit, it did not blow up into a fight because the sister was the better person.

You guys feel it is your right to belittle other's beliefs. Eventually it will be their right to not have you around.


@eladar said
You should have told your sister the truth, no. And left it at that.

No for you because there is no heaven. No for her beliefs because you will burn in hell. Either way the answer is no.
Do you want to know the big difference between you and me? I'll tell you. It's not what you probably think it is; it's not that you believe something I don't. It's that I don't use use truth to hurt people; you don't care whether truth hurts people. FMF is right, you lack compassion.

Maybe, just maybe, my sister will make it to heaven, and maybe, just maybe, the God of pure love will condemn me to eternal torture; and maybe, just maybe, my sister will look down upon me, see me in my torment, if her eyes are open, and pray for me. And that is something she and I can both agree on. Isn't that better than browbeating someone you love with some putative 'truth'? I think so.

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@moonbus said
Do you want to know the big difference between you and me? I'll tell you. It's not what you probably think it is; it's not that you believe something I don't. It's that I don't use use truth to hurt people; you don't care whether truth hurts people. FMF is right, you lack compassion.

Maybe, just maybe, my sister will make it to heaven, and maybe, just maybe, the God of pur ...[text shortened]... gree on. Isn't that better than browbeating someone you love with some putative 'truth'? I think so.
Do you really believe you were sparing your sister by insulting her beliefs?


@eladar said
No would still have been the honest answer.

As I pointed out in my edit, it did not blow up into a fight because the sister was the better person.

You guys feel it is your right to belittle other's beliefs. Eventually it will be their right to not have you around.
No, you're thinking in a spiteful and rather simple-minded way, and you are right to feel belittled.

She could go on imbibing the psychological anaesthetic that numbs her fear of death, while moonbus' gentle and enigmatic answer meant he avoided either lying to, or hurting, his sister.

Your suggestion seemed motivated by a wish to be pointedly unkind to her, and, I think, it was you banging your hairy holy chest; a kind of grotesque version of 'virtue signalling' that your disinhibited ghastlier-than-thou-Christian online persona consists of.


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Where she was living at the time, a remote fishing village in AK, there were only two options for the wives of fishermen who were absent 6 months of the year (out at sea): alcoholism, or the church. She chose the better of the two options.