Originally posted by LemonJello
[b]Since you cannot say that you deserve to exist then your life itself is a gift from God to you.
No, that doesn't follow. I think calling one's existence itself a 'gift' to the one who exists is just a bizarre use of the word. A gift is typically offered to a potential recipient, where the recipient of course already exists and where the potent ...[text shortened]... or that matter) to bestow something upon a nonexistent?[/b]
Technically the word unmerited favour cannot be said to mean ONLY " favour placed towards someone who deserves not favour but punishment" it can also refer to NEUTRAL circumstances when someone is show favour when they actually don't merit it. For an act to be unmerited all that is required is an ABSENCE of merit. It does not require the OPPOSITE of merit.
Of course , acts of favour towards individuals who deserve the opposite automatically seem more an act of graciousness or grace.
For example , St Paul was a persecutor or Christ so God's grace and favour to him seems more like an "act of grace" to us because Paul (or Saul) could have been punished. However , Peter (although he made mistakes) did Ok and did try to follow Christ. God's grace to Peter is more from a NEUTRAL starting point.
But in both these examples God's grace was unmerited. Just because the grace towards Paul was very unmerited does not mean that Peter was not also favoured by God's grace.
To me the word "unmerited" just means that there is an absence of merit. It DOES NOT HAVE TO MEAN that the individual has to be morally bankrupt. It's just that we notice God's grace more in those cases.
It's the same in human interaction. One man can bestow a gift upon another (financially , time , emotionally etc). Sometimes we are gracious to others when actually we could be forgiven for giving them a slapping. At other times we are just nice to them from a neutral position (ie it is unmerited)
Just because one act is more gracious than the other doesn't make one of them grace and the other not grace. It's just that one of them seems more loving and gracious than the other. One act of gracious kindness is very unmerited and the other is just unmerited.
There are three basic positions
1) A man who one feels merits God's favour.
2) A man who neither deserves merit but neither deserves punishmnet either
3) The man who deserves punishment
Both 2 + 3 are men who could receive favour from God but could also be technicaly and accurately said to have not merited it. Man 1 is the only man who merits favour. By defnition the other 2 don't. Just because man 2 hasn't done anything wrong doesn't mean that the grace bestowed upon him is merited , because in order to merit something you ahve to earn it , and man 2 hasn't.
Are you really saying that God can only bestow unmerited grace on those who are bad , unrighteous and deserving of punishment? If that were true his grace would be pretty limited. He would be unable to show unmerited favour to anyone who was doing "ok". Does God have to wait for us to do awful things before he can show favour towards us?
Whne your child grows up you will understand this. Sometimes you will be kind to him even when he has been a little sod to you. And at other times you will be kind to him just because you love him and for no other reason. He will not have earned it , you will just love him.