"Life Fulfillment & Happiness FAQ (Draft V1.0) Personal & Leadership Development
By Med Jones International Institute of Management (IIM)
Happiness Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)
Q. How can you tell if a person is unhappy with her/his life?
A. One would think the answer is obvious. Some people have lived unhappy lives for so long that they’ve forgotten what true happiness feels like. For some, it may take most of their adult lives to recognize their own unhappiness. Many do not realize their unhappiness until they are in their middle or later years of their lives; hence the "midlife crisis". Unhappy person exhibits one or more of the following symptoms:
• He/she is obsessed with life being unfair.
• They have a negative outlook on life and towards others. Their first reaction is to doubt the intentions of others and to assume the worst of them.
• Unhappy people are insecure, have low self-esteem or overly sensitive egos.
• They have unrealistically high standards that no one can measure up to. This includes themselves; whether it's looks, morals, or achievements.
• They are easily offended and are too critical of themselves (secretly) and others (openly).
• They have a strong need to be right all the time, which makes her/him highly argumentative.
• They are self-righteous and blame others all the time.
• Their happiness is attached to events, things or others. They view everything in terms of status or competition including their homes, cars, partners, job titles and bank accounts.
• While their cheeks may smile, their eyes don't. Their laughs might be loud, but they don't sound heartfelt.
• The tend to exaggerate negative events. They get depressed more often and for longer periods of time.
• Their language is mostly critical and negative.
• Because of their negative disposition, these individuals can't easily relate to other people (at a deeper level), and they feel lonely.
• They are "control freaks” and exhibit higher degrees of fear, worry, anxiety, stress or anger.
• Because they focus on their negative experiences, they become emotionally exhausted and can easily burnout when faced with a crisis.
• Because we are all creatures of habit, unhappy people are more attracted to negative situations (watching tragedies, war, court and crime shows)
• Unhappy people go through life missing its simple pleasures of life.
• They have less sex and when they do its usually less sensual, more of a conditioned routine or a performance act.
• Since they are not happy with themselves or their lives, they resort to escapism through workaholism, alcoholism, drug abuse, food addiction or the adoption of a superstitious belief system.
No one exhibits all the above symptoms at the same time or all the time. If one were to do so, s/he would become dysfunctional. The key questions to ask yourself is:
• How many of the above symptoms do you exhibit?
• What are you doing to overcome their root causes?
• How can you improve your life happiness?" (1 of 2)
http://www.iim-edu.org/happiness/index.htm
Comment: Med Jones of the (IIM) and Dr. Lissa Rankin assess the same issues with similar findings.
28 Apr '14 15:52
"soul loss"
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