Originally posted by coquetteThe troubled guy simply asked for non-profane input from RHP folks.
the very last thing you want to do is take advice offered by the membership of Red Hot Pawn.
Quite sure he's capable of sifting and sorting usable info from crap.
Often hearts are poured out to total strangers on airplanes, in bars,
other opportune venues because a sounding board is urgently needed.
Instead of authoritatively and judgmently cursing the RHP darkness,
try lighting a candle... positive input on the first thing he should do.
Originally posted by deathbypawnDo you know who "the girls" are?
The funny thing is her sex drive seams to be in high gear, I am getting more than I ever have in our marriage...and she has been working alot of hours and is currently out with "the girls" right now...she said she would be home at 10:30 it is now 12:05
DBP
Because if you do you can ask them if she was out with them...if they say yes then you can ask from what times...if she wasn't out with them the whole time she was gone then she is cheating on you...if she was out with them the whole time then you still don't know and will have to find out some other way.
Originally posted by deathbypawnThere are various signs which point to someone cheating:
I have suspected it for quite sometime. I have seen signs, but I do not snoop into her e-mail or follow her or anything but I suspect that my wife may be having an affair. Are there any signs that deffinatly point yes other than profane ones. I am kind of scared to just ask her.
DBP
- remarkably more sex (through a combination of guilt and being horny).
- Different working hours.
- Not looking you in the eyes when she's explaining that she has to work late or go out with friends.
- Dressing sexier than usual.
Women are much better than men at covering it up.
One question you should ask yourself:
Does it really matter?
If not, accept it and do your own things as well. Some relationships are just like that.
If it does matter. Confront. No other way about it.
Originally posted by shavixmirWisely and tenderly spoken.
There are various signs which point to someone cheating:
- remarkably more sex (through a combination of guilt and being horny).
- Different working hours.
- Not looking you in the eyes when she's explaining that she has to work late or go out with friends.
- Dressing sexier than usual.
Women are much better than men at covering it up.
One que ...[text shortened]... l. Some relationships are just like that.
If it does matter. Confront. No other way about it.
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when asking a spouses friends what they were up to the other night
swapped around - and in the male context
having stated that he had been out with friends and simply got home late, the missus decided to ring a few of those same said friends - while he slept it off
two of his friends said he'd been out all night with them
three more said they went out, but got so drunk they couldn't remember the details
the other five said he was still sleeping over at their house......
don't ring the 'friends', don't ask anyone else, hypochondria ( and similar fears of people in general) is the probably the more commontrait of most
if you are over 30 - 35, you may well experience greater responsiveness simply because it is there.... people change, and their bodies change
just because things are different doesn't necessarily mean they are worse, it could be she has some new found confidence in you, and likes it, you are more stable, your job is better, you are happier at work - so she is happier at home... ?
why does it have to be that things are worse
they may simply be better and unfortunately you wonder why
"don't worry be happy" springs to mind
- but watch your behind anyway.....
your happiness may well be - being reflected...
be happier still, some are grumpy, suspicious, overawed, overshadowed
swap it around, plan a holiday, talk when you get home
have a picnic, go out to tea, surprise...
when did the whole saga become a drag... ?
don't let others get you down
enjoy....
life is too short
well what time she got home home I could not say, because it was 12:30 when I went to bed and she did not wake me. No call to say she would be late no appology for being late...she woke me up this morning and by that I mean she really woke me up this morning in a way only a women can and she made me breakfast which never happens except on fathers day. Then she woke me up again in the shower...twice before 8 am would usually be a blessing except for the feeling I have. I was wondering...she recently had endometriousis (spelling) and had a hysterectimy (spelling) she was devastated at not being able to have a third child. Could the extra sexy time be a result of that?
DBP
Originally posted by shavixmirExactly
One question you should ask yourself:
Does it really matter?
If not, accept it and do your own things as well. Some relationships are just like that.
If it does matter. Confront. No other way about it.
It's not such a big deal unless you make it one.
My first wife had a hysterectomy. It gave her free licence to go out and take who she wanted. I never saw her as I was always baby sitting after work..... whilst she was playing the field/s. No risk of pregnancy!
If she has changed her patterns recently then you can pretty much answer yourself. One thing you can do..... check the bank for increased or decreased withdrawals from her card. If there is a negative change - she's seeing a woman. If there's a positive change - she's seeing a bloke!
But you asked and suspect - so I guess she is. And I am feeling for the pain and anxiety you are feeling.
-M 🙁