Originally posted by AThousandYoungI'm going to go out on a limb here and give you real advice:
Actually I do have some advice questions. #1 - how to handle the Valentine's Day thing? Is she reaching out for someone to be with on it and will lose interest afterwards (that is, it will be her first alone in a long time)? Also, it's my understanding that womens' sex drives cycle with their menstrual (sp?) cycle. I've had a hypothesis that when a gi ...[text shortened]... urally to sexual stuff.
Or maybe I've just lost my testicles. I'm not sure which it is.
Discuss it with HER. Really. Is she horny? Does she want a relationship or a quickie or neither? What are the barriers to taking things further?
Originally posted by reader1107NO.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and give you real advice:
Discuss it with HER. Really. Is she horny? Does she want a relationship or a quickie or neither? What are the barriers to taking things further?
Steal a kiss, maybe. Squeeze a buttock or fondle her breasts. Slide my hand on her thigh. BUT NO TALKING ABOUT IT BEFORE IT HAPPENS! That's the rule.
Originally posted by AThousandYoungI have to agree. If you talk first, it gets over-analyzed into the ground and there will be no fun whatsoever. "Quickies" are rarely the result of thoughtful discussion.
NO.
Steal a kiss, maybe. Squeeze a buttock or fondle her breasts. Slide my hand on her thigh. BUT NO TALKING ABOUT IT BEFORE IT HAPPENS! That's the rule.
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Originally posted by reader1107The current barrier is that I didn't have the huevos to make a move when I should have. We've flirted back and forth for a while (a year or so?), but that was with me knowing she was attached, so it was safe. More a playful way of making her feel sexy and give me a small, safe thrill in the process.
I'm going to go out on a limb here and give you real advice:
Discuss it with HER. Really. Is she horny? Does she want a relationship or a quickie or neither? What are the barriers to taking things further?
Now I feel the pressure to actually do something about it, and my balls seem to have vanished.
Originally posted by AThousandYoungInvite her for dinner before VD (pun intended), for Christ's sake.
The current barrier is that I didn't have the huevos to make a move when I should have. We've flirted back and forth for a while (a year or so?), but that was with me knowing she was attached, so it was safe. More a playful way of making her feel sexy and give me a small, safe thrill in the process.
Now I feel the pressure to actually do something about it, and my balls seem to have vanished.
Nothing wrong with that and works everytime when both are interested and just waiting for someone to take the first step.
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Originally posted by AThousandYoungFind your testicles and tell her all this. Should fix things right (or wrong).
Actually I do have some advice questions. #1 - how to handle the Valentine's Day thing? Is she reaching out for someone to be with on it and will lose interest afterwards (that is, it will be her first alone in a long time)? Also, it's my understanding that womens' sex drives cycle with their menstrual (sp?) cycle. I've had a hypothesis that when a gi ...[text shortened]... urally to sexual stuff.
Or maybe I've just lost my testicles. I'm not sure which it is.
Fix them anyways. What's the worst that can happen? It doesn't work? Is
it working for you now?
Just grope her gently and say: "I think you're a beautiful person. I
know you're probably not ready for a relationship right now, and I'm not
sure I am either to be honest, but I want you so bad my testicles are
actually cheering right now. Can you hear them? No? Get closer..."
Wait, you're on medication, right? Then just hug her and say: "I know
you want me bad honey, but the truth is I can't perform manwise at the
moment due to the medication I'm taking. I would love to spend time
with you though. You know, talk, hug, kiss. Put trust in you and tell you
secrets I have. If you need it badly, I could give you head, you
know?"
Originally posted by stockenHave you actually picked up woman with those lines.😀😕😀😕
Find your testicles and tell her all this. Should fix things right (or wrong).
Fix them anyways. What's the worst that can happen? It doesn't work? Is
it working for you now?
Just grope her gently and say: "I think you're a beautiful person. I
know you're probably not ready for a relationship right now, and I'm not
sure I am either to be honest ...[text shortened]... you
secrets I have. If you need it badly, I could give you head, you
know?"
Oh for God's sake! Cut all this 'agony aunt' crap.
Face up to it. You're a fat, 30 year old, erectilly dysfunctional pot-head that still sponges off his parents and can't pull some trashy, flirty tart that's on the rebound when she's rubbing up against your crotch, that goes hunting for love life advice on a chess forum!
You not getting your boon on is a GREAT thing for the human race. Keep your loser DNA out of our gene-pool, jerk!
Originally posted by AThousandYoungSo you are really just a voyeuristic tease who when it comes to the real thing fails miserably.
The current barrier is that I didn't have the huevos to make a move when I should have. We've flirted back and forth for a while (a year or so?), but that was with me knowing she was attached, so it was safe. More a playful way of making her feel sexy and give me a small, safe thrill in the process.
Now I feel the pressure to actually do something about it, and my balls seem to have vanished.
😉
