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@fmf saidIs this how you talk to your wife? "Don't run away."? Maybe the answer to your question can be found in a mirror.
Just explain what you meant. Don't run away. What are "natural causes of divorce" that you think exist in "FMF's world" that don't exist in 'your' world or in the world out there that everyone lives in?
And by happy years, did you mean years that were happy for you?
@kevin-eleven saidYou're asking me about my wife?
Is this how you talk to your wife? "Don't run away."? Maybe the answer to your question can be found in a mirror.
And by happy years, did you mean years that were happy for you?
@KellyJay
You might choose a moment like this to make common cause with a malicious troll such as Kevin Eleven because you are vexed with me, but please do not lose sight of the fact that you have known me for many a year and I would never say anything slimy about your spouse or your family in order to provoke a reaction from you.
@fmf saidWhy do you have to keep telling me not to run off?
Just explain what you meant. Don't run away. What are "natural causes of divorce" that you think exist in "FMF's world" that don't exist in 'your' world or in the world out there that everyone lives in?
You have defined your little world, put up blinders by your definitions that nothing can touch you, and you speak for everyone else, telling them why they say the things we say as IF YOU KNEW. When it is brought to your attention, it may not be the way you say it is; you give a definition that blocks out all you don't want to acknowledge, your world, your rules, your definitions, and you know what everyone is saying and why so you cannot be wrong, or touched by another opinion its a world of your own making no one else.
Concerning my QUESTION, in your world, as you described it, love-caused marriage! Then in your analogy, you add to love happiness for 25 years; those two combined caused divorce; this is your analogy, so it is your world. Does that make sense?
I'm not telling you anything other than something isn't what it seemed to me; typically, those two things combined don't add up to divorce; they add up to 25 more years. So how do you define love? How do you define happy marriage? I don't have the answers; it is your world; I cannot tell you what you think; I don't have your mental abilities; it is your analogy, not mine.
@kellyjay saidHow have I "defined [my] little world" and "put up blinders" with regard to marriage and divorce, KellyJay? What are you going on about?
You have defined your little world, put up blinders by your definitions that nothing can touch you, and you speak for everyone else, telling them why they say the things we say as IF YOU KNEW.
@kellyjay saidIt is not "my world", KellyJay, it's THE world in which we both live. People get divorced after being married for a long time. It happens. You can't pretend it doesn't.
Concerning my QUESTION, in your world, as you described it, love-caused marriage! Then in your analogy, you add to love happiness for 25 years; those two combined caused divorce; this is your analogy, so it is your world.
@kellyjay saidWhen you say "those two things combined don't add up to divorce", what does "those two things" refer to? You're not making any sense, KellyJay.
I'm not telling you anything other than something isn't what it seemed to me; typically, those two things combined don't add up to divorce; they add up to 25 more years.
@kellyjay saidIt is not "my" world; it's our world, KellyJay. You surely must know some couples who got divorced? Right?
So how do you define love? How do you define happy marriage? I don't have the answers; it is your world.
As for what is love and what is happy marriage, well in Chris and Donna's case, just assume it's more or less the same as love and happy marriage in your case and in mine, no special scenario or unusual factors.
@fmf saidI gave you my questions and concerns about your analogy. I told you I went through one too, so I was not applying an analogy to yours; I shared my life when I said that. If you wonder why I said what I did, I suggest reading what I wrote.
It is not "my world", KellyJay, it's THE world in which we both live. People get divorced after being married for a long time. It happens. You can't pretend it doesn't.