Originally posted by @secondson
You're taking "Love your neighbor as yourself" out of context and miss applying it to mean Christians should accept and even approve of behavior strictly forbidden by God.
It's a no-brainer suzianne, based on the clear teaching of scripture concerning sexual morality, that those who profess to know Christ as saviour and are born again should stand for ...[text shortened]... reprove them.
For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
I'd have no problem with you not accepting their lifestyle, or even "reproving" them, if only you could see your way clear to treat them as human beings in the meantime, understanding that it is God who brings Judgement, and not you. That was the core of Jesus' message. Remember "let he among you who is without sin cast the first stone"? We are ALL sinners and fall short of the glory of God. How hypocritical IS it to count someone else's sin as "worse" than our own? Isn't this what the Pharisees did?
"Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness. Even so ye also outwardly appear righteous unto men, but within ye are full of hypocrisy and iniquity." - Matthew 23:27-28, KJV
As for your Ephesians quote, Paul also thought women should be silent, and defer to men in all things, treating them as children.