Originally posted by stellspalfie
between the age of 13-20 i think i lusted after every woman i met. now at 35 its every other woman i meet!! but isnt that nearly all men? surly god means people who act upon their lusts have sinned? its a natural response to find woman attractive, being married does not make them unattractive and the human brain has decided if somebody is hot way before ...[text shortened]... thought she's a fine looking lady and if i were single id give her 30seconds of jaywill magic?
between the age of 13-20 i think i lusted after every woman i met. now at 35 its every other woman i meet!! but isnt that nearly all men?
The teaching is a bit of a shock to the male system.
But it is not about seeing beautiful women. And it is not about the first look. It is about the second look.
God made woman beautiful to men and vica versa. Here the second look is not simply seeing a beautiful woman. It is the third step of looking with the intent to lust.
The effect of the teaching on me is to cause me to see how deeply is my need to turn over my mind and emotion and will to the Holy Spirit. You know one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is
"self control". And
"self control" is a very important ingredient to a joyful and successful married life.
So men and women all need the Lord Jesus.
surly god means people who act upon their lusts have sinned? its a natural response to find woman attractive, being married does not make them unattractive and the human brain has decided if somebody is hot way before you have time to work out the moral implications.
As I wrote before, and will now emphasize - beauty in the woman is the idea of the Creator. Sexual attraction and marriage are also the creation of the Creator. We do not realize the extent to which we are fallen, corrupted, and damaged with greediness and lack of self control.
We simply do not realize how fallen man has become. In the book of First Samuel I think I counted about four or five times that the prophet wrote that some woman was beautiful to look upon.
So there is no sin in seeing attractive women. The gaze as the second look, with the prolonged intent in the imagination, I believe is what the Lord Jesus was exposing.
The disciples knew that this was a difficult saying in
Matthew 5:27,28. They could have excluded it because of its problematic nature. Matthew did not exclude it though I am sure that he was a typical man. This candidness to include even difficult statements by the Master impresses me. There is a candidness and a faithfulness in the recording of Christ's words which rings of authenticity.
There is the flavor in the New Testament - "This is what He SAID. What problems it means to me personally is beside the point. You have to know that this is what this extraordinary man SAID."
i dont know how old you are (or what sexual preference or sex) but are you telling me you have never looked at a married woman and thought she's a fine looking lady and if i were single id give her 30seconds of jaywill magic?
Hey, I am a typical man. Need I say more ?
But here's the wonderful, wonderful thing I have discovered. And I can only touch it briefly.
When Jesus died on the cross, I was crucified with Him. In the Holy Spirit there is a extraordinary terminating power. It is true when Paul says -
"I HAVE BEEN CRUCIFIED WITH CHRIST"
The killing off power of His death is in the Holy Spirit. In His presence, when I turn my heart to this living and available Christ, there is a terminating POWER that kills germs in the sinful being.
"It is no longer I that live, but it is Christ Who lives in me."
He does not reform. He terminates and resurrects you in a new state. His Spirit is like an all-nclusive healthy beverage. There is ingredients to KILL off germs. There are ingredients to ADD healthy nutients.
The lust can be TERMINATED and killed off just by the exercisee of faith in the truth -
"Lord Jesus, I have been crucified with You. Lord Jesus, I have been buried and raised up with You."
When we receive Jesus and exercise our faith in the divine facts of the new covenant, something empowering of His presence flows into our being.
"He who believes into Me, as the Scripture has said out of his innermost being shall flow rivers of living water."
WE ACTUALLY FIND SOMETHING BETTER TO ENJOY THAN SINS - The Triune God - Christ living in us.
The enjoyment of having Him empower you like the power steering of an automobile makes sinning poor in comparison. It is an enjoyment to mingle with the Holy Spirit.
And one of the fruits of the Holy Spirit is
"self control". Self control is very useful for many realms of human life. Self control is important to the happy married life too.
God cares for your proper and healthy sexuality. Why not let God be God ? He is the Designer of it all. God designed marriage, human beauty, human sexual attraction, and the joy of the union of man and woman in marriage.
So we all need Jesus.