Why did it take Jesus four days to arrive at the tomb of Lazarus?
Basically, it seems that Jesus arranged matters that way. Why can we say that? Consider the account recorded in John chapter 11.
When Lazarus, a resident of Bethany and a friend of Jesus, fell seriously ill, his sisters sent word to Jesus. (Verses 1-3) At the time, Jesus was a two-day journey or so from Bethany. (John 10:40) Lazarus evidently died about the time that the news reached Jesus. What did Jesus do? He “remained two days in the place where he was,” and then he left for Bethany. (Verses 6, 7) Hence, by waiting two days and then traveling two days, he arrived at the tomb four days after Lazarus’ death.—Verse 17.
Earlier, Jesus had performed two resurrections—one right after the death of the person and the other likely sometime later on the day of death. (Luke 7:11-17; 8:49-55) Could he raise up someone who had been dead for four days and whose body had already begun to decompose? (Verse 39) Interestingly, one Bible reference work says that among the Jews, there was a belief that no hope was possible “for a person who had been dead for four days; by then the body showed recognizable decay, and the soul, which was thought to hover over the body for three days, had left.”
If any of those gathered at the tomb had doubts, they were about to witness Jesus’ power over death. Standing before the open tomb, Jesus cried out: “Lazarus, come on out!” Then, “the man that had been dead came out.” (Verses 43, 44) The resurrection, not the false notion of many that the soul lives on after death, is the real hope for the dead.—Ezekiel 18:4; John 11:25.
If Jesus has left the hour he was told about his friend Lazarus's sickness, he was still 2 days away from arriving there. Lazarus would have been already dead by the time he would have arrived and this is something Jesus already knew by what he says in verses 13 & 14 in John 11.
John 11:13-14
English Standard Version (ESV)
13 Now Jesus had spoken of his death, but they thought that he meant taking rest in sleep. 14 Then Jesus told them plainly, “Lazarus has died,
So Jesus did not ignor the situation, was not wanting to prove a point, but he knew he was already dead and had other issues to complete before he left back to resurrect Lazarus.........