Originally posted by st00p1dfac3Well, I don't know... First I thought the same, but if he's 19, that sounds more serious. At that age I think most siblings have got over sibling rivalry and silly fighting. And threatening to stab his brother sounds really out of line. Not knowing him, it's impossible for me to figure out whether there's a real danger or not, but in any case I think it goes beyond "that's what brothers are for". But I also agree that a legal solution should be the last resort. Maybe you (meaning bad wolf) could talk to a counsellor - together with your brother, if he's willing to do so.
That sounds like what brothers are for.
Originally posted by Bad wolfThis is normal behaviour between siblings.
Mainly, he is making me miserable.
Double standards, constant insults, purposely going out of his way to annoy me, etc.
He has made several threats, threats of violence, there has actually been fights between us, he has on several occasions threatened to stab me as well.
He aint heavy, he's your brother.
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Originally posted by PolicestateThe problem is then that we do co-habit, we live together, we live in the same room even; changing this would be quite difficult.
OK, you seem to be suffering here.
A legal solution is far from ideal. Restaining orders and injunctions are the last resort, even if you feel you are already 'there'.
I will not patronise you by pretending to be some sort of psuedo counsellor, but do you understand why your brother acts this way?
Calling the police (your parents advice) is someth ...[text shortened]... y can't make this work, you can PM me. I can get you some assistance if you really need it.
I think it is very much a territorial thing, it is actual the biggest bedroom in the house, and if we didn't share it one of us would have to move into the smallest room. This would be fine with me I guess, but only if some of this stuff, the tumble dryer, etc, were moved into other big room, and he won't have it.
It would also be a very big financial burden on him to leave as well, he doesn't have a very well paid job, so that is perhaps why my parents are reluctant to make him leave.
What is a civil injunction?
Is it expensive, you mentioned financial assistance?
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Originally posted by st00p1dfac31. He's stronger than me.
That sounds like what brothers are for. I suggest calling him out. Punch him in the ear - that sh** hurts. I know because my younger brother did it to me. Threatening legal action just makes you look like the gay relative... I know because when I punched my brother in the jaw he tried that crap and my family backed me.
Edit - or listen to Policestate - he said some smart stuff...
2. He'd retaliate.
3. I'd get hurt.
If I pursued legal action, luckily my family would back me, not him, I am certain of this.
Originally posted by Bad wolfAh, that explains a lot. I was fighting with my sister all the time until we got each our own room (when my older siblings moved out). You say it would be quite difficult to change this situation, but if it's just "he won't have it", this doesn't sound unsolvable. If you can convince your parents that this is necessary to make the family function, they can give him a choice - either let you move into the small bedroom and have some stuff moved to his room, or find his own place to live.
The problem is then that we do co-habit, we live together, we live in the same room even; changing this would be quite difficult.
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Originally posted by NordlysI discussed this with them earlier today, it's going to be a lot of fuss to sort out if we did it.
Ah, that explains a lot. I was fighting with my sister all the time until we got each our own room (when my older siblings moved out). You say it would be quite difficult to change this situation, but if it's just "he won't have it", this doesn't sound unsolvable. If you can convince your parents that this is necessary to make the family function, they can g ...[text shortened]... nto the small bedroom and have some stuff moved to his room, or find his own place to live.
One problem noted was that the tumble dryer needs like a pipe at the back to go outside, a new one would be needed to be installed in the other room when it were moved.
Originally posted by Bad wolfLegal action would be more fuss.
I discussed this with them earlier today, it's going to be a lot of fuss to sort out if we did it.
One problem noted was that the tumble dryer needs like a pipe at the back to go outside, a new one would be needed to be installed in the other room when it were moved.
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Originally posted by NordlysThose threats feel a lot more real than you consider what he has: he already has a few pen knives and disturbingly enough a 3 inch dagger, he also has Knuckle duster, which he has already used against someone he had fight with.
Well, I don't know... First I thought the same, but if he's 19, that sounds more serious. At that age I think most siblings have got over sibling rivalry and silly fighting. And threatening to stab his brother sounds really out of line. Not knowing him, it's impossible for me to figure out whether there's a real danger or not, but in any case I think it goes ...[text shortened]... wolf) could talk to a counsellor - together with your brother, if he's willing to do so.
Wtf am I supposed to think he is capable of?! 😞
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Brothers, we love each other to bits, but if you touch my stuff you’re gonna pay.
It’s the best way to get a set of nuggets.
I sort of stabbed all of my brothers in one way or another.
Edit: And if he is as much a nutter as you are making out, stay in his good books as he will be useful later.
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Originally posted by Bad wolfI really do not see how a civil injunction could work. It is usually available in tort law and while what your brother is doing to you may amount to tortious liability an injunction is usually only a remedy for private nuisance, trespass to land, and defamation. The only injunction that I could honestly see working and it would be a very long shot would be a prohibitory injunction which is an order of the court to prevent recurrence of the tort, that being assault. If your brother was to breach this it would be a very severe matter, but I must stress that a civil injunction is the wrong route to take, a restraining order is by far the best possible remedy.
The problem is then that we do co-habit, we live together, we live in the same room even; changing this would be quite difficult.
I think it is very much a territorial thing, it is actual the biggest bedroom in the house, and if we didn't share it one of us would have to move into the smallest room. This would be fine with me I guess, but only if some of ...[text shortened]... ave.
What is a civil injunction?
Is it expensive, you mentioned financial assistance?
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Originally posted by Bad wolfWhoa. You both live at home with your parents?!? Simple solution, move out. Or take the small room. Nordlys was right, that crap should stop by the time you get to be adults... but if you're both still clinging to the homestead neither of you are grown up.
The problem is then that we do co-habit, we live together, we live in the same room even; changing this would be quite difficult.
I think it is very much a territorial thing, it is actual the biggest bedroom in the house, and if we didn't share it one of us would have to move into the smallest room. This would be fine with me I guess, but only if some of ave.
What is a civil injunction?
Is it expensive, you mentioned financial assistance?
Seriously. do you have a job? How old are you? If you are eighteen or older, you should have two things - a job, and your own place to sleep.
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Originally posted by st00p1dfac3I can't offord to move out unfortunately, I don't have a job, I'm not getting one, you can't make me! Education is hard enough work as it is!
Whoa. You both live at home with your parents?!? Simple solution, move out. Or take the small room. Nordlys was right, that crap should stop by the time you get to be adults... but if you're both still clinging to the homestead neither of you are grown up.
Seriously. do you have a job? How old are you? If you are eighteen or older, you should have two things - a job, and your own place to sleep.
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He should move out, he has a job!
Btw, I make no claims to being grown up.
edit: (to your edit) I just reached 17 recently.
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Originally posted by Bad wolfOk. New plan. Show him this post -
I can't offord to move out unfortunately, I don't have a job, I'm not getting one, you can't make me! Education is hard enough work as it is!
He should move out, he has a job!
Btw, I make no claims to being grown up.
edit: (to your edit) I just reached 17 recently.
Face is a 30 year old 6 foot 4 inch tall, 15 and a half stone, shaved headed, tattooed freak. For some reason he's taken a half-assed sympathetic liking to young Bad Wolf. If you (You being the pain in the hoop older bro who can't get his own place despite the fact that he's too old to live at home) want to eff with the kid, you eff with me.
Or, just try telling on him.