Originally posted by wolfgang59
Can it be right to announce that your 6 year-old is gay (albeit anonymously)?
I wouldn't dream of proclaiming my children gay, bi, hetero or asexual.
"I wouldn't dream of proclaiming my children (sexual orientation)."
On this subject, I may seem rather old-fashioned, perhaps because I
seem to have grown up in a less sexualized culture than in the USA today.
(Look at some very young girls already using make-up to attract boys--
something that was unimaginable in my childhood.) I believe that it's better
to allow children to remain children, to keep their innocence longer rather
rather than to hasten to join the perilous adult world of sexual exploration.
There will be time enough for that later. What's the big rush?
How often does a girl (a boy may feel differently) feel regret because
she lost her virginity 'too late'? It seems much more common for a girl
to feel regret, if not also sad, that her virginity was gone too soon.
I am not suggesting that Americans, in particular, should attempt to return
to the mores of the 'whitewashed' 1950s (which was a time of much racism,
sexism, and repressed sexual experimentation). But I am saying that,
while children today have more information available (thanks to the internet)
about sex than their grandparents did, I know of no reason to believe that
children today necessarily become emotionally mature much sooner than
their grandparents did in relation to their decisions about sex.
Speaking of childhood crushes, however, a common potential danger
takes place when a girl (or boy) has become perceived as a 'developing
young woman' (or man) and draws some extra attention from an adult in
authority over her (or him). How ready then will that girl (or boy) be to
handle intimate advances from a respected, trusted adult in her (his) life?
Would it help her (him) if that girl (or boy) already has done some serious
thnking about her (his) developing sexuality? Should we have to have
'The Talk' (about sex) so early (by age six?) with our children because
there are some adults out there who don't respect enough boundaries and
won't accept that childhood should remain a time of playful innocence?